So the saying goes, but why?
When you’re feeling frustrated, stressed and/or anxious, it’s good to talk. Talking about things allows you to get them into the open. Verbalising helps you to rationalise your thoughts and re installs your inner calm.
If you have been dwelling on stuff to the point where it’s starting to hurt, it’s time to let it out. How you choose to do it is up to you, but just keeping your pain inside will eventually lead to some kind of a meltdown.
Carrying around problems and/or secrets can weigh very heavy on our mind and hearts. It can cause many types of illnesses, ie stress, anxiety, heart palpitations, headaches & migraines, depression, mental illnesses, ulcers, even suicide, depending on the seriousness of the problem/secret. Getting these things off our minds releases us from them. They no longer have the power to hurt us. They also do not become bigger and bigger which they will do when left unattended because we think about them all the time, which also maximises them.
Keeping problems bottled up over time can also affect our relationships because what we carry around changes our perception on just about everything.
Sometimes, with emotional issues, you may be embarrassed to share what’s really going on with you. That’s why it’s so important to talk with someone who is comforting and nonjudgmental.
There will always be problems in our lives, but sometimes we don’t have the capacity to handle them all by ourselves. Getting a clear view is impossible when all you can see is what’s going wrong. Talking with another person can give you perspective. It can help you see the situation more clearly or in a new or different way. It can release built-up tension so that you can gain new insight into the situation. You may find out that you are not alone; other people may share your feelings.
Just know that you can minimise your problems by discussing them with someone you trust. Give your pain a voice, and let someone listen. You will be amazed at how much weight will be lifted off your shoulders. The sense of relief can be immense.
Imagine your mind is like a room. A room full of filing cabinets.
Your thoughts are the files that need tidying away (compartmental-ising). When you’re stressed anxious or depressed you can’t think straight, you have too much clutter in your mind. Too many files all over the place. You can’t move, you can’t think clearly.
When you talk to someone you trust you file the thoughts out of your head and into their cabinets and you free up space to move and think. For good mental health you need space in your head so by tidying up your thoughts, by talking and getting them out, you create that space.
If you need some time to talk then get in touch. Bliss hypnotherapy offers a confidential counselling service.